(...or getting back on the apps) You want to have a relationship that makes you feel cherished, valued, special, and loved. But you find yourself feeling ignored, taken for granted, and uncared for. Like the only thing you're appreciated for is what you do. Or worse, you're begging for scraps of affection, fighting, and thinking about how much easier it would be to be on your own. You know relationships take work, and you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, and

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